I Can't!

Pastor Jim Kilby • June 4, 2025

"I just can't do it!" 

 

 Do those words sound familiar to you? Maybe you've even said them yourself. I get a good amount of mail from teens (and even some adults) who are seeking advice on an issue of sin in their life. I research the item biblically, and then I respond with the appropriate Scripture, and usually some words of encouragement. Often, I'll get a reply in a few days with the "I can't!" statement. I guess I'm rarely surprised by it because I was once in the same boat. Several bad habits and some persistent sins were just impossible for me to gain any real ground on. And then one day everything changed. I stopped focusing on what I needed to stop and started focusing on what I needed to start. First, I embraced God on His terms, repenting and accepting Jesus as my Lord and Savior--my only hope! Then I began to attend church and to study His Word daily. Before long I developed a habit of prayer, and before even I knew it, nearly all of my old ways had faded away. It's quite simple really. We need God to make us new. Until we're born again, we just can't seem to get away from our old heritage--the heritage we have with Satan. When we scream "I can't," we're probably right!

 

 "I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. And I will put my Spirit in you and move you to follow my decrees and be careful to keep my laws." Ezekiel 36:26-27




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